How to Avoid Paying for Women's Attention on a Date – Part 2
I also have friends who almost NEVER take women out for so much as a cup of coffee... yet they have more women than they can handle.
Is this possible?
Are the guys who are buying dinner actually SUCCESSFUL at bribing women with food? Or do both techniques work?
Well, the interesting thing I've found – after studying this topic for YEARS - is that most guys who are REALLY GOOD with women have something in common in this area.
While some may buy expensive dinners for women, and some may buy nothing, NONE of them use the idea of paying for things as "bait" or "bribes" or "obligation"...
In other words, it's the INTENTION behind the actions that comes through loud and clear.
My friends that take women on dates to beautiful restaurants would be GOING THERE ANYWAY, and they just happen to be taking the woman along with them.
Or if they open a bottle of expensive wine, THEY WOULD HAVE BEEN DRINKING IT THEMSELVES.
I also have to mention here that all of the guys I know in BOTH camps know how ATTRACTION works, and how to make women feel attracted to them REGARDLESS of whether or not they pay for things.
To explain this differently, women INSTANTLY RECOGNIZE it when they're dealing with a man who feels the need to "buy her attention", and they usually either play hard to get, or they just leave.
You can do anything and have it mean anything.
There's a way to say "You're beautiful" and have it mean "You're not at all attractive", and there's a way to pay for things and NOT have it say "I'm a needy Wussy who feels the need to buy you things so you'll like me".
Get it?
One of the problems that a lot of guys have is the real-world issue of money.
It's expensive to take women out all the time.
It's expensive to buy flowers and drinks and gifts.
And if you're single and dating a lot of women, it can be out of the question to always be paying for things.
Well, the good news is that you don't need to pay for ANYTHING to be successful with women.
And the other good news is that if you LIKE to do nice things and go to nice dinners, THERE IS A WAY to do these things with women and not give off the "I don't deserve you, so I'll pay you for your attention" vibes.
Think about the following two ways to invite a woman out to dinner with you:
1) "Can I take you out to dinner on Friday night?"
2) "I'm thinking of going to dinner on Friday at one of my favorite restaurants, and you should join me."
What's the difference?
The difference is that the first way IMPLIES that you are TAKING her to dinner.
The second IMPLIES that you're living your life, doing your own thing, and being your own person... and that if she'd like to come along, she's welcome.
The second also doesn't make you sound like a WUSSY.
